Patrick surprised me with new insight on a day I feared he would be sad. Aaron's life long friend Zach wrote a touching letter which Patrick received on his birthday. The idea of living beyond Aaron's age could be looked at more ways than one and the healthy way is what Zach talked to Patrick about.
I know PT has thought and talked about living beyond Aaron's shadow--sometimes an easier notion to imagine than to put into practice. Guilty feelings about abandonment might stop a person from living one's life without a departed loved one. The encouragement from Zach, whom Aaron was friends with since age 7 or 8, is as close to permission from Aaron as it can get. If Zach says OK to go, Aaron would surely not be oppossed.
Embrace life is the message. Live. I recall the letter I wrote to Aaron a week before he died. It ended with--"...all I want for you is to live." My wish for Patrick is no different. To live is to be caring of other people in a selfless way. Using what we have to help other people avoid misery or even death. I spent much of my life confusing living with existing.
Sunday, January 18, 2009
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